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8/7/2016

7 Tips to Traveling with YOUR Sex Toys.

Sex toys are so common place nowadays. They have become a part of regular use, and/or an expansion on sex play and intimacy. In fact, sex toys have become so common, they are the topic or they have been integrated into some of the most watched TV programs. Shows such as Sex in the City, Frisky Business, Real Housewives and even Oprah have featured sex toys. But, what do you do when you don’t want to leave them behind during that next airline travel. These tips will help make sure you plan ahead and don’t miss out on your enjoyment while away from home.

Plan ahead. Plan what you want to take and what plans you have for storage. Will you put your toys in a specially designed case or just a zip-lock bag? The latter is a wise idea with either choice, as you don’t want someone else’s hands all over your toys during any inspection.
Remove the batteries, run out the charge if USB rechargeable or engage any lock feature on the toy so it doesn’t turn on and freak everyone out. Last thing you want is to be delayed while TSA waits from the bomb sniffing dog.
If checking a bag, put your toys in that bag. It’s just a simpler choice.
Regardless to what you store your toys in, put them between your clothes, in the middle of your bag.
If asked about your toys, explain truthfully with these simple words…”it’s a _____”, whatever it is. Be it a vibrator, pocket pussy, clit simulator, whatever. It’s your toy and are you really that concerned with what someone at the airport thinks about your travel accessories?
When traveling, smaller is better. Pick toys that are less than 7 inches long.
Lastly… if you are traveling out of the country, search on-line for the laws or culture regarding sex toys in your country of travel. Here is a partial list of countries where sex toys are illegal as of this post: India, Indonesia, Iran, Iraq, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Thailand, and United Arab Emirates.

So, here are links you may find informative:
Toy storage options: www.zenfullifelovin.com/category/874/Extras/Storage
Small toys for women: www.zenfullifelovin.com/category/8/Vibrators/Bullet-Vibrators
Small toys for men: www.zenfullifelovin.com/category/546/Mens-Toys/Masturbators/Masturbation-Sleeves
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Intimate travels to you.

5/14/2016

the best job in the world!

I have the best job. No really, I have created a rewarding career that allows me to be authentic while helping others. I’m an Intimacy Empowerment Coach which as I define it, allows me to guide adults to define their NO to get to their YES, and that’s a wonderful thing. This is where freedom and peace of mind, body and spirit all hang out cohesively together.
Although, to go back to where it all began, I go to my becoming a Health and Wellness Coach and more important than the title is the R & D… you know, the research and development. By using integrative methodology, I again get to learn about, explore, correct and develop the mind, the body and the spirit and again, it’s A WONDERFUL THING. The human genome is an interdependent system to every other living thing on the planet. This means that I am like the 6 degrees of separation to my client’s issues as they are to the person next to them and so on and so forth. Yet, it is like being charged to hold the secrets, stories and lives of people within my being like attorney client privilege. To be one’s Confidant is a high charge for which I hold protected space.

9/25/2015

from relationship overload to recovery

When relationships begin, they're fun and exciting. You spend time together doing fun things and when your partner goes home or heads off to work, you get to spend some time on your own reflecting about how much fun you've had. You look forward to seeing each other again with a sense of anticipation and excitement.

All healthy relationships go through periods of highs and lows. When things are running high, everyone's happy. But when things are at a low point, one or both partners may begin to doubt their feelings.

You might start thinking this person might not be right for you because the feelings just aren't there today. Perhaps your partner seems distant and preoccupied and isn't showing the same level of interest in you today as in previous days.

Burn out can happen simply because you're both trying to sustain the high-intensity emotions for far too long. It could also mean you're spending all your time in each other's company with no chance to unwind and enjoy that sense of anticipation until you see each other again.

Many people are guilty of this early in a relationship. I call this The Newness. They forget to socialize with other friends. They give up their usual hobbies and interests so they can spend more time with their new-found love. While it's fun at first, it can also lead to feeling unfulfilled in other areas of your life.

Just because you're in a relationship, it's unrealistic to expect every other area of your life to stop. You also can't expect your partner to give up friends, hobbies or interests he or she had before they met you, unless they're detrimental to the relationship.

RECOVERY

Nobody can feel ecstatically blissful 100% of the time, 24/7. It's exhausting and what I call, The Newness Wearing Off. So when those lulls or low-patches happen, don't take it personally. They're often a sign that you may need to spend some time doing something fun for yourself and re-energize that independent streak within you.

Not only will it give you and your partner time to miss each other, but you'll both be doing something you enjoy, which gives you something fun to talk about when you do see each other again.

Trying to beg your partner for an answer about why he or she is being distant today is likely to push them further away instead of bringing them closer. Everyone needs a little time alone to recharge and think, so allow your partner the courtesy of a little time when they need it. This will also give you time to get back in touch with yourself.

3/22/2014

THE POWER OF TOUCH

Having the weekend to myself, I spent the day relaxing with a friend, while watching Netflix and studying my health coaching program. Yes, relaxation is good in and of itself and some would consider it a non activity, but when done in close contact to another person, there are profound chemical responses.
Your skin is your body's largest organ, and when its sensory receptors are stimulated, the hormone Oxytocin, the one that makes you feel good is released. At the same time, Cortisol, the stress hormone also involved with weight, glucose regulation and the regulation of blood pressure, is reduced. The power of touch also improves your immune system, and deepen your connection to another person even more so than sex.
So I recommend you make time, hours even to connect with another person through the power of even simple touch. Also, consider the next time you shake the hand of a child or old person that lives alone; hold their hand with both your hands as long as they are comfortable. Even though you will not see the effects of this connect, it is important and very present.

2/6/2014

a conversation about depression:part 2

To begin where I left off, my doctor prescribed an antidepressant. I told my mother about it as I was alarmed by the list of possible effects of the medication. Here is a copy and paste from online. Get emergency medical help if you have any of these signs of an allergic reaction: skin rash or hives; difficulty breathing; swelling of your face, lips, tongue, or throat.

Report any new or worsening symptoms to your doctor, such as: mood or behavior changes, anxiety, panic attacks, trouble sleeping, or if you feel impulsive, irritable, agitated, hostile, aggressive, restless, hyperactive (mentally or physically), more depressed, or have thoughts about suicide or hurting yourself.

Call your doctor at once if you have:

seizure (convulsions);
very stiff (rigid) muscles, high fever, sweating, confusion, fast or uneven heartbeats, tremors, feeling like you might pass out;
agitation, hallucinations, fever, fast heart rate, overactive reflexes, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, loss of coordination;
headache, slurred speech, severe weakness, muscle cramps, feeling unsteady, fainting, shallow breathing (breathing may stop);
cough, chest tightness, trouble breathing; or
easy bruising.
Common side effects may include:

drowsiness, dizziness, weakness, feeling nervous;
increased sweating;
blurred vision;
dry mouth;
changes in appetite or weight;
mild nausea, constipation; or
decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm.
This is not a complete list of side effects and others may occur.
As I read all of this, I was wondering if my depression was this bad, if it was worth it to take the pills in hopes to improve one condition to perhaps gain all of these, or was there some other answer to the situation. So after a few days to a week, I noticed I was having mood swings. Lets just face it, I WAS BITCHY. I was aggravated by just about everything and everybody. During the second week, I really had a handle on the way the pills were making me feel, so I thought. No, I was not dealing with the majority of things from the long list above, but I was not liking the results of the way the pills were making me feel. The camel back straw occurred one evening while talking to my son. I said something, and it was not a mean thing that was said, but the way in which I said it. I heard it come out of my month and in that instance, I knew I could not take back what was already in the Universe and his ears. He said to me, with a plain and calm face and tone, " You know mom, you have not been speaking to me very nicely lately". Out of the mouth of a babe. He was RIGHT! I knew it too. I apologized, making no excuses and told him that I promised to do better. That was the last pill I took for depression.
In that moment of speaking to my son, I realized that I had a choice in how I let my situation affect me. I HAD A CHOICE TO NOT SUFFER ANY LONGER. Perhaps you have heard my favorite Zen quote. It says that, "Suffering is the desire to have something a way it is not going to be". Now I knew this. I had put it into practice on several occasions and had lived present and mindful in that space. That quote has seen me through a lot of tough situations of the past. Yet, for this situation I had sit in another space that allowed me to be sad, mad, hurt, pissed off, angry and even a victim. I had gotten comfortable in that space as it had become uncomfortably familiar. So, it was simple to do nothing about it. At this point, being fully aware, I could not sit there any more.
I began to examine my situation and acknowledge that there had to have been some reason to remain in that space as long as I had. I asked myself, what was my payoff? See we as humans, don't generally do thing for nothing at all. Generally, there is some sort of payoff. I had a light bulb moment that made me aware that as much as had done to me, it was my actions or lack there of for so long that allowed these things to take place. See I either did to much which allowed the other party to not step up or step in, or I did nothing which covertly gave permission for the other party's bad behavior. I was not a victim, but a co-conspirator to the crimes of the relationship. The only difference, was that when I was done, I was done and I moved swiftly to end things.
So now I realized that suffering had been a choice, I had a payoff for doing so, I was not a victim, but sadly enough, I was partly to blame. All and all, I was at the end of the tunnel and the light was hitting me in the face. I moved past my suffering and into my bliss.
It was just that simple for me. As I had a choice to make, we all have choices to make, paths to walk and bridges to cross, roads to travel ... you get my point. You control how you live your life.
NOTE: This is not your situation. By no means I am telling you what to do in your situation. This is what worked for me and perhaps somethings you can explore. To be or not to be medicated is an individual choice.

1/13/2014

A cONVERSATION ABOUT DEPRESSION: Part 1

DEPRESSION: WHAT IS THE PAY OFF?
The other evening, I had a conversation with a male friend about depression. It was interesting to hear a male's prospective from a personal point of view. I told him that I am not totally sold on the idea of depression as a real medical diagnoses barring a hormonal or chemical imbalance.
Last year, my Internist stated that she believed I had been "clinically" depressed since I had begun seeing her, three years prior. I confirmed that perhaps she was correct. She ask would I be willing to finally be pharmaceutical treated. As I was going through a tumultuous divorce, I agreed and she sent off the prescription. I began taking the pills once a day, until....
More to come soon. Follow this story of my real life event as I dissect and investigate beliefs regarding depression and how what I did may help you or someone you know.

12/31/2013

VISION BOARDS

Here is an example of a Vision Board, I found online.

I stated on Facebook that I would give more details on how to create a VISION BOARD and why you need one. So, here I go. What is a VISION BOARD? It is a collage of visual images, words, and statements that represent the wishes, goals and desires that you will do the work to complete in a given, set, period of time. The time has to be set for you to know that you can not play small, and that you make yourself accountable to do the work and complete your goals.

Your Board will help you get focus, clarity and the physical plan to achieve your goals. When you place the words, pictures and statements on a Board, you will be able to manifest your dreams into reality. There is medical research that proves that what the brain sees, has a physical reaction on the body. Think about it. If you are one that likes sweets, what happens to you physically when you see them? Do you then have a craving? Do you remember what that thing tastes like? This is the same mental response that you have with the images you allow to affect you daily life. Come on now. Stay with me. Why shouldn't we allow children to watch say, violence, porn, wars, blood and guts, etc... This is the same in reverse for the effect that your VISION BOARD will have on your life. Many call it the Law of Attraction, but I call it simple science and physiology.

Now that it is clear as to what a Board is and why you need one, let me talk about different types of Boards. I consider there to be 4 types of boards.

The Concrete Board. Create this Board when you know exactly what your wishes, goals and desires are. You will be clear on what it is you want and what you believe you will have to do to get to the goal in the next 12 months and also 2- 5 years ahead. YES, I said 5 years. Remember, in 2014, we are not playing small. Truly successful people don't just think about the next week, the next 30 days or even the next year. While they work in the here and now, they plan for what actions taken now will set them up for the projected future. This Board is about making a plan for your best life as a whole and working that plan! Examples of topics for your Board are where will you travel, who will you spend your time with, what will you drive, where will you live, what work will you do, etc... I believe the most important item on this type of Board is how will your actions help others? The positioning of the items need to be strategic and placed in an manner that flows and allow your energy to move from the Board to your LIFE. Don't just consider the end result, but also add the steps along the way to get to the big ticket item. If you want to inspire others, what is the "thing" you will do to make that happen and place it on the board.
The Subject Matter Board. Create this Board when you have a particular area of your life you want to focus on and take action to advance. Perhaps you want to get married, have a child, move your child from public school to private school, take a trip with the girls, better your health and wellness, buy a new car, etc... Here you will pick one topic and build in reverse of the goal.
The Categories Board. This Board will focus on YOU and 4 to 6 areas of your life with a specific goal for each separately or congruently. For example, Love, Work, Faith, Health, Money, Family, etc... So position yourself in the middle and make a plan for success in these areas of your like.
The Changing Board. I HAVE TO START BY SAYING THAT I DON"T LIKE THIS ONE. Yet, I know some people need it to be successful in taking baby steps. I believe making this Board allow you to be lazy, indecisive, and in a state of fluctuation. When in this state, what does this say to the energy fields you are attracting to your goals? It says, maybe I want you to show up, maybe you will work for me, but wait; I am not sure I even deserve my wishes, goals and desires, am I worth it, so don't work for me cause I don't even know that I deserve abundance in my life. So, let me say it to you. YOU DESIRE THE BEST LIFE OF YOUR DESIRES!. But if you have no ideal what that looks like now, I understand, and my arms are around you with hugs and my ears are open to guide you. I recently told a woman that instead of making a Board that she changes on a regular, make a different board and "to do" lists that see can freely add and remove tasks.

So that is it. You have the game plan to create the visual and why you need it. Use pictures, glue, markers, cut out words, glitter, WHATEVER! Make it attractive, because you have at least 12 months to look at this things. Then place this physical Board in a place that you will see it; if not all day when you are awake, at least several times a day. You have to see it to attract the energy from it to accomplish the items on it. If you get stuck, need help, leave comments here or on the Facebook page of the same page.
Remember, I am sure you have heard this one: “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ― Napoleon Hill.

12/11/2013

Why Zenful Life Lovin?

One last time. As I always say, sometimes the right things show up at the right time. This word "surrender" was just that for me. I was struggling as to where to take my brand, Zenful Life Living. I have this site, I have my ministry and yes, I have my site of adult toys too. I expanded my adult site and began marketing it more. As I thought I would, I got the crazy looks and stares. Zen living, ministry and adult toys, however can that go together? Or , "I thought you are a Christian". That was funny to me.
This is my answer to all the twisted faces and questions. We were created as Spiritual beings, having a physical experience. Apart of that experience is is based in One's sexuality. Couple that with a divorce rate of nearly 50% in this country at the average age of 30; which leaves a lot of people still in their sexual prime and single. Now, piggy-back that with the continued growth of sexually transmitted infection amongst homosexual men and those that are, but don't profess their bi-sexuality, and there continues to be a predictor of acquiring and transmitting HIV and not only within the homosexual community, but the hetero as well.
So how does this relate to ZLL and the adult toy division, Zenful Life Lovin? The resurgence of married turned single, of those in and out of their sexual prime, and the continued spread of STI and STD, says don't go playing with your life! Don't assume someone else is going to take care of your sexual, physical and spiritual health. There are other ways to experience the physical pleasure you desire without going out there and putting your whole life at risk. Buy some condoms and some toys!

9/30/2013 0 Comments

http://www.zenfullifelovin.com Zenful Life Lovin is finally online and functioning!

As much as we may resist it, the holiday shopping season is upon us. Zenful Life Lovin, the adult pleasure products division under the umbrella of Zenful Life Living, LLC is up and running.
Why you may be asking. Over the years, I continue to grow my business as needs of my customers change. I am very proud to say that my clientele has grown up too. Some married, some divorced or never married. Then, dare, I say, some of you are even grandparents. Yet the one thing you all have in common is that you are all spiritual beings having a physical experience. Apart of that physical experience is self-care, pleasureful, or sexual. Let me just put it out there... that is since you are not dead yet, you may still have sexual desire and want the pleasure that comes from it.
So take a look at the new site. It is a work in development, but it can take your orders at anytime. Products are shipped to you in a nondescript package. Also "LIKE" the Zenful Life Lovin Facebook page and be first to get the latest information and coupon codes between now and the New Year. Buy something for yourself or someone you care about.

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7 Tips to Traveling with YOUR Sex Toys.

the best job in the world!

from relationship overload to recovery

THE POWER OF TOUCH

a conversation about depression:part 2

A cONVERSATION ABOUT DEPRESSION: Part 1

VISION BOARDS

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