10 Tip on How to Create Intimacy After Baby's Arrival

​Your physical relationship may have been hot and steamy before marriage, but now “life” has set in. You have gotten married, the baby is here and you feel as though your life is in a rut. You may be at home with baby all day and the last thing you really want is a grown man crawling all over you. He has dropped hint that you don’t seem the same and that he wants more alone time with you. You want the same thing too. You want the intimacy back that you and your mate once shared, but how do you get that back? You are tired at the end of the day, feeling as if you have given all you have to give, but in essence you just need a change in mindset.
Here are 10 easy changes you and your mate can start doing today to bring the spice back into your life together.

• What you did to get each other, needs to happen to keep each other.
  • Look, fact is that people do so much to get a mate. When they do, often times one of the two expresses how much the other has changes. Yep, sometimes your mate may get downright lazy or complacent. You both need to remember, that your relationship is a choice. Even though the relationship dynamic changes with baby's arrive, the thoughtfulness and kindness shouldn’t.
• Stop making intimacy a production number.
  • Your love is about a gaze, a touch; the simple things that you do for each other. Meet him at the door when he comes home and take his coat off of him. Give him a hand or foot massage. Walk in the door ready to help with or cook dinner, or be ready to play with the baby or pick up the house and give her at least 30 minutes of time just for her. I remember the rush I got when my husband took out the trash without me mentioning it. These thoughtful acts will go a long way in making your mate feel loved and appreciated. Remember, as a man you may feel that going out to work is enough for your day, but being a mom is usually a 24/7 job. Sometimes her lack of sex drive is her feeling like she is always working. If a “quickie” is as good as it gets, don’t be greedy. Remember morning sex can be a good way to start a day. 

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