Messy does as messy is! #NickCannon

​Let me start by saying, congrats to his current baby momma, Brittany Bell. Nick reported a few days ago that Ms. Bell is 6 months pregnant. Children are a blessing regardless to the circumstances for which they were conceived. This is not an attack on Nick, but yet a reprimand on behavior.
Here is the lesson in all of this. Nick apparently did an interview with #ENews back in August. At which time they reported that he stated that, he has no intention of getting into another relationship ever again, because he is damaged goods. I can agree with part of that. YET, HELLO … NEW FLASH, sex with another person is a relationship. It’s called a “sexual relationship”, “a sex buddy”, “a fuck buddy”, “friends with benefits”, “sitting on the fence”,  “rebound chick or dude” or even "one night stand”… did I miss any? Regardless, they are all forms of a relationship!
There are three things that I want you to be clear on regarding this topic.

1. As long as you are clear that the act of having sex with another person is a form of a relationship, both people are CONSENTING adults and you negotiate the terms of the sex, it’s all gravy! Just be clear and define the terms of the relationship before any underwear is moved (or dare I say... mouths are opened).  Communication is key people and will help keep you from getting your car keyed or all your business on blast.
2. Don’t use sex to fix your old hurt feelings! First off, no one is here to fix you. Sorry BooBoo, you need to do that work yourself. The most important relationship you need to have is with yourself. Without it, you bring very little to the bedroom. And second, no one wants your all apartment furniture in their new house. What I mean is, stop carrying old baggage into a new relationship. You can leave those at the “airport”. Trust, it can be disposed of properly.  
3. Lastly dudes…if you have a woman that is pregnant with your baby, don’t go prancing around the world and the internet with another woman. Show some class and respect even if the two of you are not officially together. Trust, you are still together. There was a soul that has been joined together which requires you to MAN THE HELL UP! Nine months is not a long time to be low key.

Now that you are clear that when there is sex… there is a relationship. If you want more in a relationship than just sex, check out what I call “10 Life Lessons to Genuine Intimacy in 2017”. Go to the HOME page and get instance access.